What to do !

So why the focus on Mr. Hot to Trot? Stop being so negative on yourself that you can't land a guy-if you project failure success will never come your way!

That makes sense ! I do tend to beat myself up about things and sabatoge things b4 i even get a chance to discover if it was even worth it ! I just want to find someone to love me who i can love back ! Im tired of all the games that are involved in the whole process ! I just want to be happy ! I do tend to believe that everything happens for a reason so maybe i should just go with it ! I just need to snap out of it ! Sometimes easier said then done though ! I wish for once i can just chill and not be so worried bout everything but these last few years have been more then just challengeing they've been a nightmare i want the nightmare to be over and to find my peace and happiness with myself my kids and whoever is brave enough to give me a chance !

There is definitely someone out there, waiting to give you a chance. If you are tired of playing games, dont play them. When things are for real, you dont have to play. Just be yourself and there is nothing to worry about. And while you are waiting for the right person, relax and enjoy the little things in life which you will share with him later. And Chilling is way easier than you think it is. Happiness to you.

Awe well thank you ! yeh i justed posted something new on this whole topic that kinda coincides with your response so i feel good bout it ! I should just be myself and just have the attitude that someone can take it or leave it , this is who i am and will be despite anyone else ! Id perfer someone thats gonna see me for my true colors and still be interested in me then me being a fake and them falling for something that doesnt exist ! Then i will know they truely want to be with me ! Thank you again and happy chillin !

Way to go Girl!

i think you should not keep talking too these men online it can be dangerous be careful it's really not safe. pray go out in public places and meet people

I was totally obsessed with an online relationship for 8 1/2 months. Finally we met and hit it off. As with your case, he was completely out of my league in all ways, including being unavailable. The highs and lows were incredible but I paid dearly for experiencing a trip back to my teenage years.
Less than 2 weeks ago I decided it wasn't worth the ongoing grief and ended it. So much of my days and nights were filled with the typed word. Have not gone back to the site because I know it would start up all over again. Using every bit of strength I have to rekindle other interests. Don't like to rush the hands of time but it does get somewhat easier with each passing day.
Gut feelings should never be ignored. We do think with out heart instead of our brain!